Little Pieces Of Me

Wow... You really are a great writer and i wish everyone was as loving , caring, and sweet as you are. Heroine thats what you really are, something special that not all people can be...... (jack)

I remember my friendships when I was younger. Everything was so fun and simple. I miss those days dearly.
Now, most of my frinedships are so superficial. I dont like that or want them to be that way, but they just are.

"Why are the simple pleasures somehow lost?"

Time changes people. And we as people complicate matters, over the silliest things.
We need to learn how to "simplfy" things :P

I seriously think that you would make a wonderful friend!
Anyone would be lucky to have a friend like you. From reading your blog, you seem like a ginuinely nice person, who actually really cares for others :)

You might not see it coming, but I'm sure that you'll find that special friend.

Good luck with your work!

(p.s. Gr8 post)

Hi, Jack, I know your post is anonymous, so I am glad you left a name for me to refer to, its easier that way. Thank you, that's very nice of you to say, I'm glad there is a newbie here. Even if your not on blogsphere, I would appreciate it if you visit often, have a great day, where ever you are. Take care.

Taqo, would it sound too polite if I said that I think you will make a great friend? polite as in you would assume I said it back just because you said it first? because I dont do that, I only say things I truly mean, I am really honest always, so its just how I am. I hope I get to know you better, if anything, I think your smart, funny and entertaining, seriously, you make a story that I would find aimless if said by others very amusing. I totally understand what you mean taqo. I constantly improve myself, but there are things that we just shouldn't lose, laughing till your stomach hurts, I don't remember the last time I did that, being with a friend and not feeling the need to say something because just being there is entertaining enough ... If it matters at all, I think you have a killer personality, the good kind of killer :P

Thanks for wishing me luck, I have so much tough work, its ruthless. Let me hear from you always, ok? take care taqo.

Great post!

I ran into a guy who I grew up with the other day who I havent seen in a while. There was distance and akwardness between us which was a shame cos we were best friends at one point

But we wont have that problem, right heroine?

I hope not :")

I dont appericate my friends..Im a self proclaimed horrible friend.. I think it comes from the fact I was a really naive kid who thought the world was all good and made out of candy or something..Now Im jaded..

Good point u brought up cherie..

I think you are a good friend just for a taking the moment to think if you were or not!

you appreciate your friends enough to think and ask yourself if you are a good friend to them :D

Good luck with a boutique of happiness to you :-D ( is that cheesy or what LOL)

Same walla i always think that..

cuz sometimes i get these first expression of someone and think of how slowly we hav become so close.
0o b3dain i start to think what kind of friend am i ? hehe thanx for sharing that..

anyways 7bebty go on my blog you will find my email, send me your questionaire, ill help you out :)

Thank you so much everyone, I really do appreciate it.

More than you can ever imagine. Thank you.

Another great post Ms. Heroine!! Accolades to you for the way you were able to jot it down :)
Anyway, regarding the post's topic, I think you were spot on in the fact that many friendships tend to fade because of distance... I remember, when I left Saudi for the US in 1999, I lost touch with a few of my close friends despite the fact that I kept visiting between semesters...
Another factor which plays a big role in killing friendships is one's interests...
The reason why we are much closer to one another when we're 5, 6 or 10 is simply due to the obvious; we all share similar interests during that age... Basically almost any 2 kids who spend extensive time periods together will become "best friends", but now that the age of innocence is only a speck in our memories, we tend to cherry pick our friends, and we tend to be extra meticulous when it comes to their characters/personalities... Whether it's social, mental or physical, humans become much more selective with age... Back when I was 10, anyone who gave me candy and played with me was added to my "best friends" list, but now, you'd need to do much more for me to look at you in such way! U would need to earn my trust! U would need to make sure u don't piss me off! U would need to be there for me if I need help/support! U would need to be willing to swallow ur pride to inflate mine... You see what I'm saying?!

I'm aware of that OT, my questions carried rhetorical format rather than actual.
Yes, I do believe that, but also, I sometimes question why things need to be complicated, it seems that nowadays people hate more than love, it's easy to belittle someone, being nice to the underdog if you will is what makes me appreciate you. But yes, I look for the same things in a friend, I share your criteria, and I totally support your standpoint. I know some people change, and I have changed alot, it just perplexes me to see people who used to be best of friends give eachother the cold shoulder, it's that extreme that makes me wonder how things really work, it's also that thing that makes me wish the simple things ruled, like a laugh from the heart and true appreciation and honesty.

Thank you for your post OT, your views matter to me and the fact you believe I wrote a meaningful post is highly valued by me. Thank you.

heroine my dear... it is very difficult to add anything to what everyone else has said.. nontheless i would like to say this... i've known you through blog fora few months now... and i would consider myself to a be a friend/aquantance, you decide :).. and i would not find any reason that would push me to stop being friends with you.. however, thats life.. the circumstances will tear you apart from some people and get you in touch with others.. and you never know that sometime down the line you would run into those old friends of yours and can either get alone as well as before if not better or not at all..

the struggle you are going through we all went through while being abroad.. u feel that you have lost your old friends and that there is no use of making new ones there because eventually you are going back home and will leave the new ones too... in reality, a friend will remain a friend.. you will probably not stay as close and will speak less often but it will still feel special when you do..

as everyone else said.. that was a beautiful post.. keep them coming whenever you can..

you know, you are one of the few people whose writting actually gets to me... im not saying i always read ur blog but i do check it every once in a while and i am left stupified by ur words ... keep it up.
and i hope u really do find a good friend.

:) what a sweet post. so sensitive.
"there are friends whom are somewhat of a memory now, mainly because of, well, distance"

i've learnt that a real friend is one that, no matter how much time and distance is put between you and her/him, when you talk to them again, it will be just like you talked to them yesterday.

"Why are the simple pleasures somehow lost?"
... maybe because when they were around, you didn't appreciate them, you didn't hold onto them. or maybe they're there but you just can't see them because your too busy with life..

"Will I ever have that friend who will forever be there?"
if you mean forever in the same country, or forever on the other end of the phone line, then no.
if you mean forever at heart, then yes :)
.. and look around, that special friend might have been there all along, but you never noticed.